The Art of Not Giving a Fuck: A 10 Step Guid
Life is a whole lot easier when you don’t give a fuck, but that is easier said than done. Here is how you can stop giving a fuck and live your life your full potential.
Educate Yourself on Social Constructs
BRO EVERYTHING IS A SOCIAL CONSTRUCT, NOTHING IS REAL! How freakin amazing! About half of the things us humans worry about are made up rules by a little force we call society. Don’t worry about what is not real. We all follow a strict set of rules set up by society, but guess what? We don’t have to! Spread your wings and fly, don’t let some bs cut them short. Not following? Here is an example: you are a girl so you have to play with princesses and dream of your wedding one day or you are a boy so you are not aloud to cry or show emotion. FALSE! These are completely made up. You can be a girl and dream of being a house wife, a CEO, a teacher, or whatever the fuck you want. If you are a guy, cry, cry your heart out masculinity is not real either buds. Do whatever or whoever you want, there are no rules, we are free it is just a matter of realizing it. If anyone judges you from breaking away from social norms and embracing your individualistic self, hold your head high and just walk away cause you know that they are still stuck in the fake cycle that society wants them to be in. So again, majority of the things you are worrying about is most likely made up by society in order to conform you to the social bindings of society for the soul purpose of keeping order (or brainwashing all of us so we are easier to manipulate. I know it sounds crazy, but just think about it lol).
Realize that you are not the center of the universe and no one probably cares about you in the way you think they do.
That sounds super harsh, but hear me out. No one is paying attention to you they are all worrying about themselves. Scared someone is going to judge you for the small coffee stain on your shirt? They won’t, and honestly if they do they are literally looking for flaws in other people to make them feel better about their own. Anyways, while you are worrying about your imperfections the boy or girl next to you is worrying about their own, no one is paying attention to you. Also, lets just remember good people will only see your beauty. They will find beauty in stains, messy hair, a bare face, and whatever else you would deem shameful in common going out culture.
Come to terms with death
Harsh I know, but again hear me out! We all die. In March of 2018 I almost died in a car crash, but I didn’t. I was lucky. BUT, I could have, and I was given the harsh reminder that we only have so long on this Earth. Once you realize life is short it puts everything into perspective of what matters and what doesn’t. This things you are worrying about probably do not matter. Let me lay it out for you, the only things that truly truly truly matter in the grand scheme of things is happiness, happiness of those around you, and achieving enough monetary success to support your most basic needs. We fuckin die bro, like you just stop existing. When you are on your death bed you are not gonna be worrying about what Karen thought of you that one Saturday night, you’re gonna being thinking about how much fun you had looking like an idiot with your friends. However, the only way to think about that is if make that memory, in order to make that memory you have to stop giving a fuck. We all die bruh, so fuck it, live it up while you can.
Accept yourself to the fullest extent.
Not giving a fuck is rooted in self love babe. Once you have fully experienced self-love you will know what I mean. I got made fun of for my hair and the way I talked a lot when I was younger. As a result I hated both of those things. I would straighten my hair every day and try to change the fluctuations in my voice in order to not stand out so much. Eventually, I realized that those two things are apart of who I am, and I love them both because they are simply me. The acceptance of those made me not give a fuck about what anyone had to say about it. I can’t change them so why not love them or why worry about them. Even the aspects of yourself that you hate but can change should be loved to the fullest extent. For example if you want to lose weight, do it! But, in the meantime, while you’re on that journey, love your body unconditionally.
Every morning you should wake up and tell yourself 5 things you love about yourself, even if you are lying. Fake it till you make it. Self talk is a really big factor in loving yourself. Change those negative thoughts in to positive ones, work every day for it. This one is probably the hardest to actually do, but I believe in you. You can definitely do this.
Stop wearing makeup for a little while.
I’m not a huge makeup person myself mostly cause I suck at it, but I do appreciate it as an art form. I totally get that makeup makes people happy and it’s therapeutic, and I know not everyone wears it because they think they look better with it, but rather because they love it. I’m not talking to those people. I am talking to the people who wear it because they think they are ugly or unworthy without it. First let me tell you that you are incorrect. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. Stop wearing makeup for a few days maybe a week, let your skin breath. You could notice a few things. 1. no one will say anything cause no one really cares what you look like. 2. once you accept your beautiful face for what it is and you realize you do not need makeup you will be happier and more content with yourself. 3. once you accept your beautiful face, if someone does decide to be a dick and say something rude you won’t give a fuck because you have accepted yourself in all your glory.
Go into nature and have an existential crisis.
This one is a little too real for me, it happens far to often. Think about how small we are, how little we are, how there might have been worlds before us and there will probably be worlds after us, and how little we know. This will make you stop giving a fuck about materialistic trash that does not matter because in the grand scheme of things nothing really matters. Just try to gain a different perspective. Look at the bigger picture and do not cling to the baggage that drags your soul down. Go to my post about deep thoughts to get the process started!
Ask yourself why what others think of you matters when you are feeling insecure.
Really have that internal conversation with yourself. Why the hell does it matter what Sarah said? This is your life, not hers. Lets say someone makes fun of your shirt and you feel insecure about it. This is a natural response but, stop your thoughts in their tracks, and ask yourself “why do I care so much about what they have to say?” Hopefully this question will make you realize that it doesn’t matter what they say. It’s YOUR shirt not theirs and they do not have to like it if they do not want to. All that matters is that you like it.
Cope and work through your demons.
We all have demons and pasts that we held onto for a little too long. Something happened when I was 16 that made me fall back into my old ways of caring about everything. Set backs happen, but you did it once you can do it again. Process what you are feeling.Once I truly processed what happened to me, coped, and moved on was when I stopped caring about the stupid little things again. Once you move past your past, and find true happiness, the little things just don’t matter.
Dance like no one is watching.
No, really, go to a club and dance like a fool. You will feel free, happy, and maybe a little embarrassed, but that will pass. Dive in head deep baby. Once you see how good it feels to not care it’s hard to go back.
Know yourself, own yourself, be yourself.
Bottom line ladies and gentlemen this is your life, own it. Do not let your own insecurities get in the way of living. We created these stupid little fucks so lets destroy them too. We are all weird people living weird lives in comparisons to others, embrace it. Happiness lies within yourself it is up to you to find it.
Well that is my 10 step guid to not giving a fuck. Don’t just read this, practice it too!